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The 7 benefits of the internal orgasm

The 7 benefits of the internal orgasm

If the man had a remote control for pleasure it would have only two buttons, switching on and off, while the remote control for a woman would be equipped with several buttons that vary depending on the emotional state, the moment, the situation etc…  The experience of orgasm in women can be profound and satisfying and leave behind a real sense of contentment and emotional nurturing, while other times it can be a superficial, quick, irritating experience that leaves a sense of frustration.

  • If during the clitoral orgasm the energy is directed outward, dispersing and leaving a state of tiredness and exhaustion, the deep orgasm, in contrast, is a complete experience that involves the whole body. Women who know the internal orgasm, consider the clitoral orgasm only a reduced version of sexual potential, a superficial experience, which despite being very intense leaves behind a trail of frustration and incompleteness.
  • Clitoral orgasm is a male type experience and in the long run can create energy imbalances, Yang energy will suppress that Yin and the woman will become stronger and more in control of everything but not able to let go to the flow of life. With this you do not want to demonize the clitoris and the pleasure that comes from it, but if it becomes the only expression of sexual gratification, it will lead to excess of male energy in the energy field of women.
  • Clitoral orgasm does not require emotional involvement. Vaginal orgasm, on the other hand, is an experience that gives a sense of deep emotional contentment, the musculature of the whole body softens, the breath becomes free and deep, the mind reaches a state of complete relaxation and the heart is open. and full of love. Sigmund Freud himself, the father of psychoanalysis, had sensed that women who experience deep sexual contentment are more relaxed, face life in a relaxed way and are less prone to stress and neurosis.
  • External orgasm involves dispersion of energy outside, just as ejaculation in humans leaves a sense of exhaustion and draining until the energy has returned to normal levels. Vaginal orgasm, on the other hand, does not involve dispersion of energy towards the outside, on the contrary it gives a sense of revitalization, the woman feels energetic, luminous, sensual and is ready to experience another orgasm of greater intensity.
  • The deep vaginal orgasm manifests itself with deep vibrations of the vaginal muscles that rise up to involve the wall of the uterus, they go to massage and soften the tissues bringing more blood and lymph. This involves the elimination of toxins and ensures a greater flow of nutrients going to play an important prevention for cellular health of the uterine wall.
  • Deep orgasm can be an incredible opportunity to get in touch with your authentic female. The woman recovers sensuality, sinuosity and softness, she begins to live well in the body, inside her own skin, to like and appreciate herself as a woman, something opens and blooms, becomes luminous and beautiful, shines with her own light, opening up she finds her own center to give herself to the world with maximum potential.
  • Deep orgasm is no longer a purely physical experience, it involves all levels of women, it is an orgasm that touches the soul. The mind frees itself from every thought to make room for an ocean of inner peace, the boundaries of one’s being expand and the energy field increases, the tantric orgasm is an extraordinary experience that can open to ecstasy. The energy rises to the higher chakras (Ajna and Sahasrara) to open up to mystical experiences of great spiritual transformation. The two lovers can experience states of expansion of consciousness, accompanied by a state of mystical ecstasy where everything is perceived as intimately connected with the whole, and where every illusion of separation between oneself and the rest of the Universe disappears. Tantric orgasm can become an important spiritual experience for both partners.

Amita Helga Albini

When libido declines

When libido declines

The frantic life of modern society forces us to live at a sustained condition in which the mind is constantly agitated, the brain increases the production of cortisol while decreasing the level of oxytocin (a fundamental hormone for sexual life) creating a vicious circle of stress and tension. The perception of the body decreases considerably, we live too much in the head and little in the body and sexual desire decreases.
The libido is the barometer of the condition of our energy, when we are well, we are vital, relaxed, happy and love increases, while when something hinders the free flow of energy in our being sexuality is the first to be affected.

Completely absorbed by work, the care of children, husband and home, many women forget themselves, forget to take some time for themselves, forget to take care of their interests and dreams. The years pass and the energy begins to fall and a sense of dissatisfaction makes life grey and boring. The drop in libido often tells us of a decline in enthusiasm for life itself.

Sometimes the loss of libido can be caused by a lack of vitality due to fatigue or a health problem. We can consider sexual energy as a luxury of the body, when it cannot afford it because the vital energy meter is in red due to a precarious health condition or tiredness, then nature closes the libido taps so that the system can operate in energy saving mode until the batteries are recharged. When we are too tired we do not want to make love, if we ignore this signal that our body sends us to be affected will be the couple’s understanding as sexuality is the fuel that keeps it vital. Letting this happen without paying attention to it is the best way to let our relationship fade and lose intensity, sometimes in an irrecoverable way. It is much easier to prevent planning a time for a walk in the open air, yoga classes, regular physical activity, if possible a holiday or anything else to help us increase our vital tone. When energy returns, sexual vigor will also reappear with it.

In this regard it is necessary to remind the women who have recently given birth to a child, that during the period of breastfeeding there can often be a decline in desire and that this is a normal physiological phenomenon and not intended as a personal or couple problem. At the base of this phenomenon there is the hormonal balance typical of the lactation phase, in which the testosterone precipitates and instead grow the levels of prolactin, inhibitor of the libido, moreover the decrease of the estrogens can create vaginal dryness making the relationship difficult and annoying. Unfortunately, the new mothers are not always adequately informed by the health system, and with the lack of correct information, the temporary sexual separation of new parents can be experienced with extreme discomfort, especially in cases where breastfeeding lasts a long time, in cases where it is necessary for the health of the child. The woman, on her side, will have the foresight to inform the partner that this hormonal situation is not caused by his will or a lack of interest in the partner, and above all that it will not be permanent but only linked to the months of breastfeeding.

Tantra explains the sexual attraction between two individuals as the attraction of two different energetic charges, namely the masculine (Yang) that we can associate with the positive electric charge, and the female (Yin) negative electric charge. The man is attracted by the woman because she is opposed energetically to himself, the “+” attracts the “-“, and vice versa, and when the two energetic charges meet then the spark occurs, expressed in human nature as sexual desire. In couples who have been together for so many years it may happen that a decline in sexual attraction occurs, the years pass and the intensity of the first moments is replaced by the routine of couple life and in the great majority of cases this happens due to a decline in polarity . By spending so much time together the positive and negative energy pole merge and lose the original energy charge, the feminine is less intense as well as the masculine, the two electric charges lose power and flatten in a median polarity that no longer produces that spark with the same intensity.

To find the right energy polarity and the intensity of the encounter it is necessary to separate often, to allow oneself to miss one another helps reinforce the desire and in reuniting you will regain that emotion of the early times, you return to being sensitive to ‘the smell of the partner to which may not usually the case. After a period of separation every moment together seems magical and intense. Cultivating the polarity between the two partners is the secret of a relationship that remains fresh and vital over time, a real investment for the couple. Only keeping the interest of each other high without ever ceasing to discover the partner, continuing to be fascinated by exploring the changing nature of his being without taking it for granted, without losing the playfulness of the beginning and adoration of the first moments, being grateful every day for his presence in your life, then that plant will become big and strong and will give wonderful flowers.

Another factor that can make the libido inexorably collapse between the couple is to live a constant conflictual climate. When much of the available energy is used to discuss, there is not much left for intimacy, and moreover the tensions create a state of physical and emotional contraction that is not conducive to the cocktail of hormones necessary for love.

Sometimes, even if consciously we are armed with all the good intentions, the dynamics coming from the unconscious can deeply undermine the intimacy of the couple, whether we want it or not in it the same mental structures of the relationship with the parents are involved, so it is practically impossible not to be influenced by them.

Often the couple is the field in which an unsolved outline of the project is projected and for this reason a wonderful opportunity to explore oneself, to avoid facing things so as not to create conflicts by covering it up is not a correct and evolutionary strategy and in the long run creates emotional disastrous distances for intimacy. But falling into the drama of emotions and living a daily newspaper constantly undermined by confrontations and tensions is equally counterproductive. The most constructive attitude is to explore the mechanisms that emerge with your partner, and through loving communication, welcoming and supporting each other in their own passages. Even the worst difficulties can be solved through the acceptance of the other and unconditional love. Some scientific research has established that happy couples are those who, for every difficult and tense moment, manage to recreate at least another five pleasurable moments of intimacy and understanding.

Making love, then, is a real nourishment for the couple, sex keeps the relationship alive and increases physical and psychic closeness, reinforces the sense of belonging and complicity. Keeping sexual passion alive is taking responsibility for one’s relationship in spite of the years that pass, work, children and everything else.

When sex hurts for her

When sex hurts for her

The female libido is not as obvious as the male libido, it is subject to multiple hormonal, psychological and emotional factors. Sometimes it is revealed while other times it is hidden, and if it is not nourished it can end up lost in oblivion. Addressing the issue of decreased libido, it is imperative to mention that 40% of women experience pain during penetration and for this reason associate the relationship with something unpleasant and move away from sex.

The vagina is composed of an extremely elastic tissue and therefore the painful condition during penetration is not considered natural. Only with this awareness will it be possible to find the courage to face this limitation without the shame to talk about it and find the right remedies to solve the problem, so as not to deprive ourselves of a great energy resource for us as women and as fuel for a loving partnership agreement.

The first thing to do is to check with your doctor that there are no physiological causes, in fact the presence of irritations or infections can create discomfort or burning during intercourse. Very often, the pain during penetration is only due to haste, the time for deep and loving physical contact is essential to create that space of intimacy where a woman can feel protected and safe in opening completely to the other. For men it is easier, even though they often resort to sex only to relieve stress and the relationship suffers and becomes superficial, but for women, so emotional and sensitive, relaxing and opening up, rediscovering that state of inner softness and letting go, may not be an easy passage in the hectic life of today.

Each of us has an area of the body where tension and stress accumulates, the shoulders, the lumbar region, the abdomen, even the vagina wall, like any other muscle in the body, can accumulate tension and appear closed and contracted. There is a real muscular disorder of the pelvic floor, called vaginism, which causes the vaginal muscles to remain constantly contracted. In this case the vagina is impenetrable and even the thought of sex is a cause of discomfort. The origin of this problem is however almost always of psychological origin or due to a stress condition. Many women have experienced unpleasant, traumatic or even violent sexual experiences, and every time they approach the moment of penetration, a state of psychological contraction does not allow their flower to open and blossom.

It is important to know that these are all solvable conditions, and that if you take the responsibility to deal with the emotional issues from which they originate, you can transform the trauma that has always blocked your energy into one of your strengths, one of immense resource. If it seems to you that dealing with traumatic memories alone is too big a business, ask for help from a therapist who can help you unravel the entanglement of your unconscious experience. Find the courage to open the pot and look inside, when you have done it you will feel much freer and lighter, vital.

The education received from parents greatly influences the ability of a woman to open and live sex in a healthy way, free from shame. A subtle thread unites every woman with the female family lineage behind her, whether we want it or not a part of the unconscious attitudes are inherited by the homologous parent, especially with regard to sexuality and the sense of modesty. It is not so long that the woman has gained the freedom to feel pleasure, only a couple of generations ago, since childhood they were educated in the annihilation of deep drives and sexual desire.

This is the cultural legacy we have received from our ancestors of past centuries, handed down from mother to daughter from generation to generation. Without wanting to replace any psychological therapy, the ancient practice of vaginal massage (also called Yoni-massage) can be an effective tool to remove emotional blocks and traumatic memories from the tissues of the physical body.

• Yoni massage is certainly the best tool you have available if you suffer with hypertonic vagina. In recent years the ancient tantric practice of intimate massage has become very fashionable, probably to counteract the “stress of modern life” effect on sexuality. It can be considered in all respects a holistic massage, as eliminating the muscular tensions of the genital area will go a long way to loosen ancient psychic tensions related to sexuality and consequently to bring about a general state of relaxation. But what to do then, if we feel pain during penetration?

• Breathing is certainly our best ally, breathing deeply helps us to ease mental tensions and to rediscover the body, we activate the parasympathetic nervous system that allows you to loosen and dilate, enter into a mode of well-being, relaxation, sincere love, gratitude.

• Leave the expectations aside: do not judge yourself feeling inadequate, start from a state of acceptance of yourself, you and the varied world of your emotions. If you feel tension while making love, try to welcome everything that comes, from space, breathe in, do not fight, listen to what you want to say. And then let it melt, it’s your great opportunity to turn it into pleasure.

• It cultivates trust: the ability to let oneself go completely, where one abandons every kind of resistance to give oneself completely. This requires a great deal of inner trust and self-confidence, it is not always easy to remain so open because this state makes you vulnerable and sensitive and is sometimes scary.
Only through total abandonment does the body open and our flower opens up ready to welcome, without effort or pain. Only by remaining open and receptive can you best express your feminine essence.

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