The Effects of Porn on Male Pleasure
Men, let’s face it, watching too much porn is not suitable for you!
Do not take me for a moralist; it is certainly not that. But it’s time to bring some awareness to this and say it clearly.
(In this article, I am addressing men by choice, but of course, the same is true for women)
Do you want to know why it’s not good for you?
Desensitization
• It gets you used to be aroused with a high voltage stimulation, which you will then struggle to find in sexual intercourse with a real woman – desensitizing yourself. Instead, you could be opening up and activating your whole body so that even a light stimulus can make you vibrate with pleasure, needing more and more intensity naturally. I don’t know how convenient this is for you, my friend! It sure won’t make you a better lover. The art of being a good lover goes through deep relaxation, openness, and awareness. Quite the opposite of what happens when you masturbate in front of a porn m
In the “porn style” model of sexual intercourse, it is all a question of performance, not of energetic and emotional connection with the person you are making love with. Being “in performance mode” inevitably leads to internal tension, which disconnects you from feeling yourself deeply and whom you have in your arms. Sexual ecstasy is achieved when two people reach that deep connection until they become one. Then, making love leads you to touch the gates of heaven.
Disconnection
• It disconnects you from your body and your feelings. You are so enraptured by what happens in the video that you fail to be present in that myriad of sensations, even very subtle ones, that can release so much energy. This kind of awareness and presence in the body will make you a great lover. This is also true in your solitary practice because that is your gym, where you learn to control your energy. If you always masturbate to porn, you risk making your sexual sensations more into the head than into the body – resulting in the energy you release being almost nothing. This is a pathetic way of experiencing sexuality and sex, don’t settle for so little!
Sexual energy can be an incredible source of energy to all areas of your life and can open up you as a man in this world. It can make you a powerful, centered, inwardly robust, and vital man. Full of love. But if you want to take this path, the first thing is not to overdo it with porn!
Addiction
• This kind of high-voltage pornographic sexuality is addictive! That’s right, and any psychologist can confirm it. The mechanism is always the same, a process of extreme physical and emotional arousal, often accompanied by anxiety, which ends with an orgasm that releases tension. Then a mechanism is established in the brain whereby we turn to pornography whenever we feel sad, anxious, angry, or excited. This type of experience, followed by an ejaculatory orgasm, releases many chemicals in your body that you can quickly get used to. Then you will want to repeat and still have that injection of hormones into the blood. Even making love releases a fantastic cocktail of chemicals, but much less adrenaline. Doctor Michel Odent called it “the cocktail of love,” which he studied.
It’s the same release when a woman gives birth and during mystical experiences. This is why tantric sexuality can open up to ecstasy and the expansion of consciousness. You hardly reach that state if you are lost on the screen of a porn movie and not present in the here and now!
Alienation
• Alienation! Here is a keyword that comes to mind when discussing the enormous spread of porn addiction. We live increasingly in a virtual world where human relationships are delegated to technology. More and more screens, less and less physical and emotional contact. We live in a society of complete alienation, and who knows what the next generation will be like? It’s no surprise to me that many men (and women, too) prefer the “safe” space of a porn movie where they don’t have to get involved in a relationship with another human being. They think it is an easier way, but do you want to live in a world like this? Hiding away and being disconnected…We should all ask ourselves questions, especially surrounding sexuality, because the most intimate encounter with another human is being delegated to the screen and the internet.
Objectifying women
• Do we want to talk about the patriarchal model proposed by pornography? Women become an object of pleasure for the male gender, stereotyped in perfectly sized bodies that, frankly, aren’t that common in the real world with redone breasts and stilettos. The woman’s object of pleasure. How bad is all this? How unaccustomed do you get to grasping the beauty in every female body, regardless of size and measurements? To feel the woman in front of you, to connect with her essence and not just with her shapes? Don’t you think that woman deserves something better than all of this? Do you feel that you are honoring the feminine when you get aroused in front of the figure of an objectified woman? Not too far from the idea of prostitution, right? Do you think a woman is happy to do that kind of work? Do you find it healthy? I don’t want to give answers, but leave your feeling to it.
I intend to bring awareness around this because it is so important. What I deeply feel after decades of work in this sector is that around sexuality lies the maximum human potential, so strong that life will benefit in general, and it also shows you the most incredible shadows. I call them “demons.” Are not men who rape possessed by demonic entities? Or does that force prostitution? Behind the whole sex market? What other explanation could there be behind something so inhuman?
What is the energy behind pornography? How is it beneficial to become a user of specific circuits? What comes to you?
Again it is an invitation to feel…
A whole range of erotic cinematic art can bring a little spice to a couple on a boring night. I’m not even here to say that it is forbidden to open YouPorn; otherwise, you will end up in hell. I’m just saying that you have to be careful not to end up in specific mechanisms in which porn becomes the primary form of your erotic energy and to be careful not to be misled by that way of having sex. And above all, to avoid desensitizing yourself, ending up needing more intense stimuli, which would compromise your real sex life, in flesh and blood.
Recommendations
How about trying to relax deeply next time instead of playing a porn video? You can also lie down and breathe, inhale into your penis, listen to the entire genital area, and feel every inch: the belly, the thighs, the perineum. Relax your buttocks. Feel and relax. That’s the formula.
The excitement will rise much more slowly, but it will have a whole other space inside you, you will see. It will bring expansion and non-contracted excitement. The pleasure will invade your entire body and not just the penis. You can access much broader levels of satisfaction through deep relaxation, expanded like the woman’s oceanic waves of pleasure! I assure you that anyone who has taken this path towards tantric sexuality will never return. The old way might seem almost pathetic.
There is so much to experience, and not just in terms of physical pleasure. At a certain point, your energy will rise to levels never experienced before, and joy will invade your subtle bodies. It is an orgasm of the soul. And it’s a never-ending pleasure because it’s so expanded it doesn’t need to explode. It opens your heart wide and frees your mind…until it leads you to experience the universal and eternal nature of your true Self.
Are you ready to embark on this journey?
